Sunday, September 21, 2008

High School Tag

Your High School's Name-Manchester High School West (i.e. West High)

High School Colors- Blue and White

High School Mascot- a knight

Did you date anyone from your school? Sure did, although I NEVER expected I would. My freshman and sophomore years guys didn't even know I existed, and if they did they weren't kind to me. Then, Fred started calling. He was my first date. The spring of junior year, Chris and I began to go out and were an item throughout the rest of high school.

What kind of car did you drive? I didn't have a car. But, the priceless days with Kristi and the blue flame made up for any memories of my own car I could have wanted.

It's Friday night where are you? Freshman and sophomore year I was at home with the fam. Junior and Senior year I was at parties, church dances, or hangin' out with Chris, Kristi, Ethan, and other friends.

Were you a party animal? Hardly. But really, the parties (of the non-drinking sort) we did have I loved. We had a great group of friends and there was a party every other weekend junior and senior year.

Were you considered a flirt? Definitely not. I was way too shy and way too loyal to be a flirt of the real kind. But, I did flirt with Chris since he was a huge flirt.

Were you in band, orchestra, choir, or any other group? I ran track, sort of. Ethan, my brother, and I were on the cross country ski team our senior year.

Were you in any clubs? Yeah, but I don't remember all of them. National Honor Society...etc.

Did you ever get suspended or expelled? Rrrriiiiiiggggghhhhtttt. I probably missed three days of high school total, if even that.

Can you still sing the fight song? I am pretty sure we didn't have one. If we did, I didn't know about it and would have been too cool in my own mind to learn it if we did have one.

Who were your favorite teachers? Hummm...Mr. Labore [English]. He was so funny and incredibly easy. I was very lazy in high school and strategically picked my teachers for how easily I could get the grades I wanted with as little work as possible. Mr. Tripotsis [Chemistry], however, didn't go along with this plan. He was my most challenging teacher. I enjoyed his intelligence, but hated how hard I had to work in his class. I loved making fun of Mr. Snapple [Math], (no, that wasn't his real name, that was just what I called him.)

Where did you sit during lunch? Depends on the year. Freshman and sophomore years I sat with whoever was kind enough to let me sit with them. I was hopelessly shy. I had a couple of years sitting with Mike, Trisha, Dan, Jamie and the ROTC crew. Mike, Trisha, Jamie, Dan, they were all brilliant and incredibly funny. They recently found me on facebook. They haven't changed a bit. Junior and senior year I sat with Genevieve and Alyssa and other friends.

Who did you go to Homecoming with? We didn't have homecoming. I did go to the harvest dance with Fred my junior year.

Who did you go to Prom with? Chris and Chris.

If you could go back and re-do high school would you? I echo Sandy. No way!!

What do you remember about Graduation? My favorite picture is the one of Ethan, Holly, Me, Chris, Kristi, and Alyssa. I can see the picture from where I am sitting to write this blog entry. We are all smiles with our caps and gowns on. Someone gave us flowers. I still had a sunburn from a day on the beach. It was a great time.

Do you plan on going to your 10 year reunion, or if you already went what was it like? I didn't go. I was in the middle of law school when it happened. It was in NH and I was in MO finishing up school. Besides, I didn't have many friends in high school and I still keep in contact with most of the people who mattered to me.

I tag Kristi for sure and anyone else who wants to do this.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Hello Blogging Community

Well, the response of the blogging community for the Nielsons has been so amazing that it has been covered by the news. Hopefully they will be able to make it through. Certainly the prayers, donations, and supportive comments the family has gotten have been a great support. Don't we all wish for that in our rough times? Crazy how small the world can be sometimes. A guy in my ward happens to be related to Christian Nielson (cousins). He mentioned it a few Sundays ago and my roommate and I were like - hey, we follow that blog...

There is another tragedy that happened to a young family recently. This mother gave birth to her third child and her body had an unexpectedly miserable reaction. Because of it she went blind and doctors had to amputate one of her arms and a leg above the knee. Insurance is not covering many of the expenses. The costs are in the millions. If you want to read about it or help them out here are the links:

http://sccsdecker.blogspot.com/

http://sccsdecker.blogspot.com/2008/06/update-to-account-information.html

I think the weird thing about blogging is that it can be funny, whimsical, and also personal. But people somehow get to know you in the process, and they do care. Stephanie Nielson, for example had many people who had found her blog and were so affected by her accident that they took action and in a way set a precedence for what blogs can do. It really will make a difference. It just amazes me.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Studette of the Month - September 2008



I know what you are thinking...which of these is September's Studette of the Month. It was a tough pick, but I decided to go for the one in the middle. First of all, she is my roommate, so I get to observe her a little more closely than the other two. So, what makes Karen so great you wonder. Last time I was posed with this question, the poor guy got a 1/2 hour answer.

When Karen and I decided to be roommates, it was more out of convenience than friendship. She needed a roommate, I needed a new place to live...perfect. I knew she had a good sense of humor from a brief interaction at Family Home Evening, and that was about all I really knew about her.

When I moved in, she was out of town. As I unpacked, I observed her book collection (which includes the classics of Anne of Green Gables and Les Miserables) and her marathon medals, I was sure we'd get along well. My friend Dustin wondered how I could be so sure.

"The clues" I responded.

"Oh, so do you also have an obsession with honey?" Dustin asked. I had no idea what he was talking about. He pointed out an unopened box of honey on the dining room table. I was a little curious about the honey obsession, but otherwise she seemed like a great fit.

It shortly became evident that Karen is a people person. She is considerate to a depth that is exceptionally rare. She is always thoughtful of my situation and adapts accordingly. As my school schedule became more and more engrossing, Karen would come back from the social gatherings I could not attend and fill me in on how our friends were doing and pass on their hellos. I never felt left out or lonely even though I didn't do much of anything social for many, many months.

Karen is incredibly service oriented. If someone has done something kind for you and you can't figure out who it was...Karen is most likely top on your suspect list, if you have a clue. After she became my roommate, I kept getting thanked for things I never did. At one point a mutual friend was going on and on about how unusually kind it was for me to give him a birthday gift. It was so unlike me, blah, blah, blah. How right he was; I had nothing to do with the birthday gift. It was all Karen, with my name attached. I think she was cognizant of the fact that I wanted to be able to give, but I couldn't and thoughtfully attached my name even though I didn't deserve the credit.

Karen is honorable - through and through. I have a deep respect for her level of integrity. She always makes up lost time at work. She doesn't take discounts she isn't entitled to take. She has been more than fair in every interaction I've had with her. She gives more than she takes.

She is a leader in ways that she doesn't realize. It has been so interesting, as a roommate, to observe the ripple effect of her actions. I've watched her make dinners for many people when they were incredibly busy with school. Then I've watched those some of the same individuals offer to do the same for me when I was busy studying for the bar. I sat there wondering, where do people think to such fittingly kind things? Then it dawned on me, Karen. She set the example.

I had the same epiphany after a church mingle one Sunday. Before I went to her ward, she came home one Sunday and explained, somewhat frustrated, how everyone just up and left after they ate. So she stayed and cleaned until everything was done. When I joined her ward, inspired by her past comments, I followed Karen's example in the cleaning after, and so did a few of our friends. A month later, I realized that a great majority of the ward helped to clean up post-mingle. People just spontaneously joined in without even really noticing that a change had taken place.

It is not all that surprising to discover that at the root of Karen there is faith, deep, strong, vibrant faith. I have loved, LOVED living with a returned missionary. My mother is a returned missionary and have always loved the unique caliber of person found there. It is nice to be able to talk of miracles, the depth of love and faith that come with that level of service and sacrifice and meet comprehension.

You may wonder, does Karen have any flaws? Yes, she is most certainly human. But even her shortcomings are a reflection of how deeply she cares for people. It makes sense that she is well-loved by many.

In light of a year's worth of observation, our one person committee nominated Karen as September 2008 Studette of the Month.

Footnote 1 - She comes from a family of beekeepers...thus the box of honey on the table.

Thursday, September 11, 2008

Take Time to Smell the Roses

I once mused to myself, do I want to live life like a science or an art? My parents live life like a science. Life is stable, secure, and predictable. I studied humanities in undergrad. It was a time in which I was passionate about art, literature, and architecture. I believed in following my passions. In my musings, I concluded I wanted to live life like an art...

I only signed up for 13 credit hours when I lived in Paris. This way I wasn't overwhelmed with school and I could focus on falling in love with Paris, which I did whole-heartedly. In the process, I discovered a new passion, exploring. In the evenings after class I found new parks to explore. On Sundays, I explored Cathedrals. I explored every museum, monument, cafe, concert, event there was to find. But mostly, I made it a goal to always smell the roses, which I did as I strolled home for dinner in the evenings. I savored every moment.

Today, I ran a new path and found some utterly beautiful landscape. Realizing that the fall is only weeks away, I realized that this too must be savored. These pictures really don't capture the moment, but I thought I'd share just the same. This is a scene from Tower Grove Park. Maybe tomorrow I'll get some pictures of tall, old, ivy-covered trees which line my running path and were probably planted by Mr. Shaw himself. In the mean time,

Enjoy...



Tuesday, September 9, 2008

The Ghost of Birthday's Past

The only problem with September birthdays is that it is right at the beginning of the school year, so I generally celebrate with people I hardly know. They pretend they care. I pretend to be thrilled about the birthday pencil from my teacher. I can't expect her to be all attached to me on the first week of school.

However, when I was 17, my best friend, Kristi, threw me a surprise birthday party. I did not see it coming AT ALL. That was points for her because, I really didn't expect a surprise party would ever be lost on me.

When I turned 18 I was a new freshman in college. I went out to breakfast in my PJ's with the other 12 girls on the floor who also had September birthdays. In the picture I have from this event, I am walking down the dorm hall with a t-shirt, boxer shorts, and a finger sticking out. I couldn't bend my finger because I'd jammed it trying to disparately to stop a zip line before I slammed into a tree. I hardly knew anyone, but it was fun to be a freshman.

19 - Living with friends in Provo. My roommates made me a cake and we celebrated. I still own the sweater I was wearing in the pictures from that day.

20 - Roommates pretended they didn't remember it was my birthday so nothing was said until really late...it was funny, but I wasn't hurt that no one remembered. I used to have great fears I'd get married really young. I felt a huge sense of relief that I would never be a teen bride. Broke my leg the day after and spent the next month on crutches. (What can I say, September 11th is not exactly my lucky day.) My friend Shaun took me to the mountains for dinner a little later (crutches and all). He made a birthday wish for me that my life-long dream of traveling abroad would come true. Somehow I knew that his wish would come true. He just seemed to me to be one of those people who always got what he wished for.

21 - I was on my study abroad in Paris. Again, still getting acquainted with people. The whole group went to the Hard Rock Cafe in Paris. They shut off all the lights in the restaurant. The waiters had sparklers and they set a cake with sparklers in front of me and the entire restaurant sang while the waiters pounded the counters. It was incredible. I spent the evening going to the Eiffel Tower...It was amazing.

22 - It was a Sunday in Nice, France. I had been told a day or so before that I was getting transfered after 7 months in my first mission area. Cecile and Martine had been baptized in that time. I was worried for them. The ward had a tendency to be harsh. In my parting testimony to the ward, all I could think to say was...if you loved me, love them. So much of what I cared about was wrapped up in them. Left the area realizing why, when you love others you love God...because he loves them so much.

23 - My birthday was on a Monday, the day before THE September 11th; my last semester at BYU. I celebrated with my Family Home Evening group. It was fun, but a little too fun. It put me furiously behind on homework. When THE September 11th hit, I spent the ENTIRE day off from start to finish catching up on being only one day behind. It was a rough semester.

24 - I was living in Salt Lake with my mission trainer and 4 other amazing women. Had my old roommate Leslie, my brother Vince, and Jenni & Danny come up from Provo for my birthday. My Mexican neighbors came over...it was great.

25 - Had my birthday celebration at my soon-to-be roommate Jessie's apartment. Aaron, Chad, Jessie, Michele and other friend's were there. Chad and Aaron sent me tons of helium balloons at work because the ridiculousness of the vision of me toting all of these balloons to my car was enough to keep them laughing for weeks. I left the balloons at my desk.

26 - My boyfriend and I used to plan dates on our lunch breaks each Thursday alternatively. It was his week to plan. He sent me a Gerber daisy at work that morning with a note indicating the location of where I should meet him. I met him by the fountain at the city library where he presented me with a shoe box wrapped in gift paper. The shoe box contained our lunch, a sandwich, bananas etc. which were wrapped individually. We took a tour of the library gardens. I thought that was it, but later that night he presented me with the real present. He was a writer, and he'd written a fictional story where I was the main character (and a pirate.) It was so funny, laced with French words he'd subtly asked me about in the weeks preceding my birthday. I came across it again the other day...man, I loved his creativity.

27 - Turned 27 my first year of law school. I had just moved to St. Louis. The Lindell YSA group took a trip to Columbia, Missouri for a conference. I got a birthday card written in French from some anonymous person. I spent all day trying to figure out who gave it to me. Spent much the day cleaning chairs in a nursery school for a service project with Ben A. and Cindy. The YSA group all signed a cute little birthday card. Pretty nice considering they still hardly knew me.

28 - Amy officially took over my birthday planning. A group of us went to dinner at a Mexican restaurant. Brien got me a book of farm animals...David gave me a Boeing paper weight with the world in it. Mark gave me a movie card. Liza and Adam were dating.

29 - Karen put huge letters on the kitchen wall spelling Happy Birthday. I thought that was really nice of her considering we had only been roommates for a few days. Amy's magic planning again. We went on a boat ride on the Mississippi, then ate dinner with law school and church friends in a restaurant in downtown St. Louis.

30 - History here has yet to be written. I know mom will call. I'll go out to dinner with a few thoughtful friends. Katie will make blueberry pie. Either way, I'll be 30 and excited to welcome in a new decade.

All in all, perhaps September birthdays aren't so bad after all.

Thursday, September 4, 2008

Observation: It Is All About the People

I was done the project my boss had me working on so he had me ask his partner if there was anything he needed me to do. It seemed that he didn't because rather than answering my question with mounds of work to do, he engaged me in conversation. He asked me what kind of law I wanted to practice. I gave him the honest answer, anything that I feel ethically o'k with is my bottom rung, and top rung is that I'd love to do immigration or international law.

From there the conversation led to divorce and that sometimes it is better for couples to divorce. He asked me my feelings on family law. I told him I wouldn't be interested in dealing with the acrimonious feelings that come with divorce. I remarked that some situations are just rough to deal with and make for nasty divorces. He looked at me, paused, and remarked that it really boils down to the people more than the situation. Without thinking I brought it back to the fact that some situations are just rough, like abusive marriages, a spouse cheating, and other tragedies; even good people would struggle. Holding his ground, he said no, it really boils down to the people more than the situation.

Noting to myself that he has a lot more experience both in law and in life, I realized that he is probably right and made a mental note to take notice of the truthfulness of this assertion in the future. It is not the situation, it is the people.

You will notice in the upper right hand side of this blog I have added a little gadget saying that I read NieNie. As you click on that button it will take you to another blog of a woman I have never met. If you search a bit, you will find a link her sister's blog. Last night I was reading it and was amazed to see example number one of my lawyer friend's observation. Stephanie and her husband were severely injured in a private airplane accident a few months ago. Via the blog, I have watched Stephanie's friends put on auctions to raise money to pay for the medical bills that will be in the millions. Stephanie's sister is taking care of the children and keeps a blog that many, many people she has never met have responded to. These fellow bloggers give her support when it is emotionally rough. Even more so, I noticed while reading her sister's entries that their spirits are generating love and resilience rather than bitterness and helplessness. Certainly this situation would seem to merit bitterness.

I think that my lawyer friend made a profound observation. It is not so much the life situations we encounter, but rather what is inside of us that really spells the difference. Prior to this situation I thought that our life situations defined us, now I am converting more to the belief that we define our life experiences.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Hello from Mississippi

My friend Amy is currently in Mississippi. She is in the military. I asked her I could post some portions of her last e-mail since it gives an inside look on what is going on there in the hurricane area.
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I'm happy to report that I am now back to the base - safe and sound. This area didn't get it too bad - there is damage but it could have been worse! The highway out near the gulf is still closed but I'm confident that they will open that soon and there are trees down and some usual storm damage but in Biloxi - it seems they got lucky. As I write this - I have had a good HOT shower and I'm comfortable with Power and TV! ;-)

Many restaurants and businesses aren't open yet as many people are still figuring out what damage they sustained or they are trying to return from evacuating. They were handing out ice, water and food at several locations in Biloxi this afternoon for the residents who are still without power. The National Guard is patrolling the streets and there were a bunch of Federal agents from Department of Homeland Security arriving at the base when I got here today. On Sunday, they evacuated the base here and many of the students were put in storm shelters. Because I went camping with my family - I was out of the area and that meant that I couldn't return to the base until they gave the 'all clear' so last night I had to stay at the camp ground by myself! The campsite was nice and it was a great weekend with my family but when they left me there alone last night I thought I was just NUTS! I made it through the night - met some really nice people who had evacuated from the storm from Louisiana and they are fearful that they will have a lot of damage to their property when they return. They fed me dinner and kept an eye on me since I was alone. It rained off and on throughout the night and then when I got the all clear to return to the base I had the crazy adventure of driving through Mississippi in rain and thunderstorms with constant 'tornado' and 'flood' warnings coming across the radio.

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Many people in this area are still reeling from Katrina - the repairs in Biloxi and Mississippi in general seem to be slower than in Louisiana - to me it seems that the money went with the publicity and that was centered in New Orleans. They are still repairing roads here and it's not uncommon to look up a restaurant in the phone book only to find that it is not there anymore.

Pray for the families that have been impacted by this storm and will have a long few months ahead of them. They are suffering from lost wages, damaged property, unexpected expenses from evacuating and from the stress of not knowing what lies ahead.


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Maybe we can organize something when Amy gets back. She is amazing about community service. If any one is up for that, just shoot me an e-mail.